Affairs and sex addiction have two characteristics in common, both thrive on secrecy and lies. When a disclosure is made, or more usually the truth is “uncovered” by an unsuspecting partner, the effect is devastating. In the weeks that follow as the partner tries to make sense of it all, they often don’t know what is genuine or what to believe. Re-building trust is an uphill struggle. But it is possible over time, and with professional help you can re-build your relationship.