Couple relationships can often come under stress for a variety of reasons such as: pressures of work; sexual problems; an affair; financial difficulties; a new baby; family issues…the list goes on. When you are living with conflict, your relationship can become the source of a great deal of unhappiness.
It can be difficult to know how to move forward, and often couples get stuck in a hurtful cycle of constant rows and disagreements. I work with couples and individuals to explore what is going wrong, and to find a way to rebuild closeness and trust to enable the couple to stay together if that is what they want.
If your relationship has recently ended, or is in the process of breaking down, I can work with you to help you recover from the pain of ending, or to work towards a healthier ending, especially if you have children together. Relationship problems aren’t exclusive to couples of course. Families can be hard work too. You may be experiencing family tensions due to difficult teenagers, or step family issues; or trying to cope with in-laws, or sibling differences. Outside the family it may be a challenging relationship in the work place that is causing some distress, or maybe an ex-partner or friend. I can work with any relationship difficulty.Sometimes the opportunity to talk things through with an objective third party can be all it takes to move things forward.
I can offer individual counselling or work with couples in conflict and with adults families.
Beginning any form of counselling is daunting, but finding the right therapist to suit the needs of both parties can be a challenge. If one half of a couple presents for therapy, then naturally the therapist hears only one half of the story. Effective couple’s therapy ensures that both parties get equal time, attention and support. Couples therapy can be far more successful than individual therapy in helping couples to resolve their relationship problems and differences; or even to work towards a healthy separation if those differences, once explored, cannot be resolved. This is especially important if you have children together.
Couples Counselling is for two people who are in a relationship whether married or not, you may be living together or apart, gay, straight, pansexual or transgender. The only requirement is that you must agree attend for therapy together.
Many couples are unsure whether their relationship will survive the difficulties and some are conflicted about whether to say or to leave. In some cases, the question to be explored is whether the relationship is too good to leave or too bad to stick with?
If you want to know more about couples counselling then please read the section on Does Couples Therapy Work?